We’ve normalized what is actually making us sick—and we’re calling it aging.
Two years ago, I hit a wall. What I had been doing to manage my menopause symptoms—especially my weight—suddenly stopped working.
I doubled down on my own teachings. Logged everything: food, exercise, sleep, even those dreaded night sweats (yep, they came back—not with a vengeance, but just enough to steal my sleep). The result? I lost 20 pounds.
Here’s the thing… I hadn’t even realized I’d gained that much weight. But at 140 pounds on my 5’1″ frame, I was quietly inching past the healthy BMI range into the “overweight” category. My BMI was 26. Scary, considering I thought I was doing everything right.
Fast forward to a visit with my best friend. At 125 pounds and feeling stronger than ever, I told her my goal was to reach 120. She paused. “Don’t lose any more weight. You look too skinny.”
It threw me for a second. Too skinny? I’m strong. I run four days a week, lift weights. I’m not chasing skinny—I’m chasing longevity. So why did it strike such a nerve?
After some reflection (and a little luck), I saw a photo of my friend with her circle of local lady friends, and suddenly it clicked.
She looked like everyone else in that photo—beautiful, radiant women. But every single one of them was visibly overweight. Not in a shaming way—just as a fact. It had become normal.
This is the dangerous part. As a society, we’ve grown accustomed to seeing midlife women carry an extra 20, 30, or even 40 pounds. And because it’s common, we think it’s fine.
But it’s not fine.
Normal Doesn’t Mean Healthy
Being overweight in midlife isn’t just about how we look in jeans. It’s about what’s going on under the surface:
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Increased inflammation disrupts hormones, insulin, and metabolism.
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Blood pressure climbs. Good cholesterol drops. Bad cholesterol spikes.
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Cancer risk skyrockets. Breast, colon, kidney, liver, esophagus, and endometrial cancers are all linked to excess weight, especially postmenopause.
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Your joints pay the price. Did you know that for every pound of excess weight, your knees take on four pounds of additional pressure. That’s 40 extra pounds of force with just 10 pounds of weight gain. No wonder a day at Disney with the grandkids feels brutal.
And yes, your heart feels it too. The more body you carry, the harder it has to work to keep you alive. That’s not drama. That’s biology.
This Isn’t About Vanity—It’s About Vitality
No, this isn’t about vanity. It’s not about having a bikini body or fitting into your college jeans, if you even still have them.
It’s about staying alive, mobile, and vibrant into your 60s,70s, 80s, and beyond.
It’s about living a life that doesn’t shrink around you, like the walls did for my legally blind aunt—who now needs help just to move from her bed to a chair.
You may feel “fine” right now. But fine isn’t the goal.
You can wait until the diagnosis comes—heart disease, cancer, diabetes—or…
You can start making small, powerful shifts today. You don’t need another fad diet or more hours of punishing workouts. You need clarity, support, and a plan rooted in truth.
I can help you do that.
If you’re done settling for “fine,” let’s talk.
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Because the weight isn’t just on your body—it’s on your future.